Gay Bashing: It Gets Worse Edition

What’s worse than general homophobia? No, this isn’t a trick question. Think about it.

What could be worse than getting it from inside your own family? It’s a common enough occurrence. We wouldn’t live in a nation full of self-loathing, suicidal gay teenagers if kids could guarantee that at the very least they’d get support from within the walls of their homes. If families would accept that Lady Gaga is right, kids are “born this way.”

It’s been one of those weeks. First I read that Mel Gibson’s brother, Andrew, had come out in support of his ranting, racist brother. Or rather, the gay Gibson claims it that isn’t the “real” Mel. Because even though Andrew admits the actor really did make homophobic comments about how gay men “take it up the ass,” well, he accepted him when he came out. Sorry Andrew, but just because you got the family pass doesn’t mean your brother doesn’t have a problem with the rest of the world.

It’s a problem I have come face-to-face with all too often. A family member of a gay person in my life makes a show of loving their relative but continues their old ways outside of the house. Seriously? Y’all? If you’re making gay jokes on Facebook, you haven’t “come to terms with” or “accepted” your loved one’s decision. You’re an ass.

Plain and simple.

Here’s the thing. If you love someone, REALLY, 100 percent LOVE the living shit out of someone, who THEY love doesn’t matter. One of things my dad has always said about my husband is that it doesn’t matter if HE likes him. I’m the one that has to like him. It’s something I’ve loved about him from the “awww, Daaaaad” perspective, but it applies all around. Love is love.

It doesn’t matter what YOU think about Adam loving Steve or whatever. The fact is, he loves him. He’s fallen. Hook. Line. Sinker. Whatever.

If he can do that, he’s braver than you.

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  1. Wow, what a great post. That is so true, if they are making jokes, they have not accepted it, they are just pretending to accept it. What you said at the end should be framed and put up all over the world. It doesn't matter what we think. If boy loves boy, then good for them.

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