If a Fairy Can Save the World, My Daughter Can Fall in Love With Her

Secret of the Wings

I’m going to hand it to the folks over at Walt Disney. They’ve done good with this whole series of Tinker Bell flicks, right on up through the just-released-today Secret of the Wings

When you give birth to a girl, all anyone wants to talk about is pink dresses this and ballet recitals that.

But then they all leave, and you’re faced with the reality of what it means to have a daughter. You have to figure out how to raise a strong women in a world that really doesn’t care if she makes as much money as the guy one cubicle over as long as she wears a short skirt (that she ironed herself).

These days I find myself in a fierce battle between finding things that fit my daughter’s tastes for the prototypical cotton-candy coated “girl” world she loves and still represent the values of strength of spirit I want her to carry with her on the life’s great adventures.

Lately the little angel on one shoulder and devil on the other do battle over her choices of movies and TV shows.

I want strong female role models. She just wants fairies, mermaids, princesses, and the other characters that people her sugarplum dreams.

Which brings me back to Tinker Bell.

Did you know there’s an actual sparkly winged creature who flits around inside our kids’ TVs asking people what their talent is? Who is proud to “tinker” with things and be the hero? Who is creative, industrious even?

The Tinker Bell who returned to DVD this week in her fourth flick is not the pissy pixie of the original Peter Pan. She’s kind, helpful, and maybe more importantly if you’re a mother trying to raise a girl who gets off her ass and gets things done, today’s Tinker Bell has chutzpah.

We’re four films in with Secret of the Wings. Disney is chugging along, giving us a story of Tinker Bell’s never-before-seen sister who lives in yet another world of nature, the Winter Woods.

It’s not groundbreaking, but Secret has all the hallmarks of a Tinker Bell success. She is brave enough to venture into the Winter Woods alone! She doesn’t take any guff from anyone! And when inevitable disaster strikes, it’s Tinker Bell to the rescue.

When many series should have called it quits at number two (cough, Madagascar, cough, cough), Secret manages to make a fourth Tinker Bell film seem appropriate. It’s about neck and neck with the prior iteration, Tinker Bell and the Great Fairy Rescue, in my daughter’s heart, while I’m still partial to the first one.

That said, and maybe I’ve been sucking down too much pixie dust, but I’m hoping they keep going.

I need more Tinker Bells in my life.

I need more examples of creativity and chutzpah in my daughter’s life.

Not because I am not a good role model. I am, and I will continue to be. But I have a 7-year-old girl, who likes what 7-year-old girls tend to like. Her eyes, at the moment, are on pixies and princesses. Her focus is on glittery and gorgeous.

That’s OK with me if I can provide a balance. Pixies who take charge and save a world from destruction. Glittery, flittery pixies who are loyal and strong, brave and fierce.

I am her role model for all time, but she needs the role models for just now too. And I’m perfectly fine with this one.

Do you have a Tinker Bell fan in your house? Who is your go-to for strong female role models for this age group?

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Disclaimer: I received a free copy of Secret of the Wings from Disney. I was not otherwise compensated, and all opinions are my own.


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