Because it’s not just “I’m a full-time mom” that they write. It’s “I’m a full-time mom because I really love my children” or “I’m a full-time mom because I sacrifice for my kids” or something to that affect.
It’s the mommy wars in one ridiculous, confounding phrase.
Aren’t we all full-time moms? Those of us who have kids?
Whether we’re home with them all day or out of the home working from 9 to 5, whether they’re in school from 8 to 3 or we’re working at home while a babysitter keeps them occupied, don’t we share the same mom-ness, the part of ourselves that functions not just as ourselves but as someone’s mother?
I’m a working mother. For the most part, I work from home, but I also go outside of the home to cover events for the newspaper or to shoot family portraits or photos of newborns.
I respect stay-at-home moms; I really do. In a country where the cost of childcare hangs like an albatross round the necks of so many parents, we have financial proof of the value they contribute to the economy, but my respect is more than that.
More From Inside Out: Go Ahead, Tell Me I’m a Bad Mom
Anyone who can sit in a room with a small person and read “If You Give a Moose a Muffin” 20 times in a row with a smile on her face and without driving a screwdriver into her ear deserves people bowing at her feet. She is a goddess.
And that’s only an hour out of a stay-at-home mom’s day. She does so much more.
Still, she’s no more mom than any of the rest of us, those with kids who we let out of our sight for hours at a time.
We’re full-time moms because there is no on/off switch that lets us suddenly stop worrying about the bully who won’t leave our kids alone on the school bus because we’re off duty. We’re full-time moms because some days you go to work because you want to and some days because you really want to be able to fill Santa’s bag this year. We’re full-time moms because after work we will run pell-mell out the door to make it to soccer practice on time, and the night before the school play we will be up all night sewing until our fingers bleed.
We are full-time moms because there is no part-time in this job.
And we knew that signing up.
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